As you may already be aware, sugar dating is the concept of an older, wealthier man providing sponsorship to a younger, attractive girl. Sponsorship typically comes in the form of a weekly or monthly cash allowance. The man gives the girl money. The girl gives the mancompanionship. The most popular website for this is called Seeking Arrangement.
So basically what we have here is a rationalized prostitution loophole that has been gaining more social acceptability with each passing year. As of 2016, I would estimate that less than 10% of attractive women have or have had sugar daddies. But as this trend grows and becomes more accepted, we can expect that figure to rise drastically.
I believe a day will come when its as common for a hot 20-something to have a sugar daddy as it is for her to have a dating app downloaded on her phone. The line between normal dating behavior and prostitution will become blurred.
But this article wont go into the cultural implications of such a phenomenon. For today were simply going to focus on how the common man such as myself or perhaps yourself can play this game too and benefit from the growing number of middle-class women whoring themselves out to the rich.
I first saw this term online when I read an article written by a frustrated sugar baby. She was tired of going on dates with guys who fucked her and then failed to contact her again in order to set up a transfer of funds.
Salt Daddy was of course a term meant to insult but to me these guys sounded like geniuses if anything. And I wanted to join them.
As you might have guessed at this point, a Salt Daddy is a fake Sugar Daddy.
The general idea is that you sign up for a Sugar Daddy profile on a website like Seeking Arrangement. You lie about your net worth. You lie about your income. You take girls out on dates. You bang them. Youdontpay them. Thats it.
Today, youre going to play a role. Youre no longer a student, a server, or a cubicle-dweller. Youre an intimidating and charming millionaire.
Sugar dating websites typically encourage you to use an alias or a fake name. I googled rich sounding names andDonovan Chasewas born soon after.
Most importantly, your story needs to be believable. Its a lot easier to fake a million dollar net worth than it is to say youre a multi-billionaire.
On Seeking Arrangement, my net worth is stated at $2M and my income is $300k. Anything more than that would be impossible to fake.
In the About Me section, I explain that my streak of fortune came from being childhood friends with the founder and CEO of a well known social media app. I let the girls wonder which one it may be, but I have more back story prepared if she brings it up on the date. Usually curiosity will get the best of her and Ill weave an elaborate story of how I used to bounce ideas around with the CEO of whatever app so he gave me a small piece of the company worth $2 million.
For the What Im looking For section I say Im looking to meet and settle on one girl for an arrangement/travel companion. Someone stylish, fun and easy to talk to.
Keep it short, simple, and enticing. Dont write novels. Key advice for all forms of online dating.
I find it fun to get into the role play of your backstory. There have been times when I sold my story so convincingly on a date that even I believed it.
As you peruse profiles and send out messages, you may notice something strikingly different about sugar dating sites compared to normal online dating.
Many of the girls will be very responsive, sweet, and eager to get to know you. Its not going to be like Tinder where the market is heavily skewed in her favor. Its your turn to be the hot commodity now. Youre going to get a taste of what its like to be a rich and famous person.
There have been times when I matched with a girl on Tinder and she was short-tempered and rude. Then I saw her on Seeking Arrangement and sent her a message and she was like a completely different person! I couldnt help but feel bad for all the guys on Tinder who had to put up with her crap while I got the best side of her.
In your normal life, if you go up to a smokeshow 10 and show her your cockiest and funniest game, shes going to think hmm well this guy is different. This guy is fearless. This guy is attractive.
But if a celebrity went up to that girl and ran over-the-top, arrogant, cocky-funny game on her, it would probably hurt her feelings and make her think that hes a mean person.
Why is that? Its because a celebrity has higher status than her. And relative status has to be factored into your game and the way you interact with people.
On Tinder or in real life, if shes hot then shell often automatically perceive herself to be higher status than you. Thats why you bring that cocky game to smash her pedestal into a million pieces and make her think, hmm he must have a lot going for him to talk to me like that.
But on sugar dating websites you have built-in status. Remember that and dont over-game.
Now you understand why its important to account for relative status and calibrate your game accordingly.
Update:I used to publicly share my word-for-word messages here that I would send out to girls. But this article was shared enough times that sending those messages was getting recognized way too often. If youre interested in seeing what my profile looks like and exactly what I say to girls be sure to check outSalt Dating 102.
But essentially, when youre messaging on SA, the idea to keep in mind is less is more. Keep interactions brief, fun, and flirty before moving the conversation to text. Ask her to tell you more about herself beyond what is on her profile. Thats pretty much it.
Seem easy? Thats because it is. Welcome to the lifestyle of the rich and the famous.
Its paramount that you treat the entire interaction as normal as you can and make it feel like a standard attraction-comfort-seduction dynamic.
But its inevitable that the site or the idea of an arrangement will come up in some way.
Shell probably ask you what youre looking for, why youre on the site, or what your ideal arrangement is.
My exact response is outlined inSalt Dating 102
But basically you want to give the impression that shes one trying toland the positionwith you.Be subtle about it but make sure she knows she has competition. That way shell be more likely to give you the best experience possible on the first date.
Remember:You always want to drive the conversation away from any kind of arrangement talk and back into normal dating/getting-to-know-each-other territory.
These are your terms. If she doesnt like them she can walk.
The beauty of the site is that in my experience, its about 80% girls who are just curious and interested in going out with a rich and well-connected guy. Theyre interested inthe ideaandpotentialof an arrangement.
Theyre interested in just having a good time and unique experience. Theyre not quick to talk money and theyre happy to accept a date on your terms.
The other 20%are part-time escorts talented in the dark arts of extracting wealth and materials from men.
Dont entertain these girls who try to iron out the details of an arrangement before she even meets you for a date. These are the girls you need to weed out.
Theyre the ones who will ask you how much youll pay to go out with them or what kinds ofgiftsordonationsyou bring to dates.
Theyre the ones who will want to know the exact dollar amount they can expect to have transferred into their PayPal accounts before you even get to the third message.
Theyre the ones who would be more than happy to draft up an ironclad legal document detailing the terms and conditions of the arrangement if they could afford a lawyer.
I typically will allow 1-2 gold digging comments before I throw her into theescortbucket and delete her from my inbox. These girls arent what Im looking for. Lucky for us, the numbers are in our favor. These girls are a minority and you should feel no hesitation to walk away from them.
You can also tell a lot about a girl by looking at the date and year she signed up for the site. Youll have more success with the girls who are newer.
Youre doing things on your terms, not hers. What we have here gentlemen is a buyers market. And its vastly overcrowded with what shes selling.
I remember my first Seeking Arrangement date like it was yesterday. I wont lie, I was slightly nervous. But as I was getting ready I realized that she should be the one whos nervous, not me. Im the intimidating millionaire. Im the one who fearlessly calls the shots and who isnt afraid to walk away from bad deals.
I got into my role-playing state of mind, treated it like a normal date, and had her in bed by the end of the night.
Its worth noting that I live in a two bedroom apartment and have a roommate. I drive a ten year old Honda. These visible parts of my lifestyle dont exactly scream millionaire. So I have to find a way around them.
I typically just tell the girls that I own the place and rent out the spare bedroom to one of my buddies. I say it with a casual confidence and theyve never questioned it. Even as we walk past the big sign that says Leasing Center indicating the building is actually full of rental units rather than for-sale condominiums.
As for the faithful old Honda, I imagine in this situation it would be a bigger cockblock than a full-scale herpes outbreak. So they never see it. I live walking distance to some bars so we walk somewhere nearby or we take Uber.
Youll have to think through your own individual logistics challenges and come up with solutions. But worse-case scenario, you can take her to a hotel bar. If things are looking good, go to the bathroom and book the hotel room on your phone using Expedia. Then discreetly grab the keys at the lobby when you can.
So as the date progresses, youll seed the idea of going upstairs to your room to watch some amazing show that youre currently hooked on or whatever. And if she seems down, book the room.
In the 21st century, you no longer have to be a millionaire or a rockstar to have the sex life of one. Why should pretty girls be the only ones that get to have all the fun and excitement in life? Oh and please dont try to sell me the idea of a Sugar Mama. That market doesnt exist (nor would I want it to).
If you decide to give this crazy world a go, I think youll find that most of the girls you go out with are pleasant and fun. Theyre looking for a good time and are happy with just a nice date and some good sex. They will follow your lead.. if you have the will to lead.
If youre an average-looking younger guy then youre going to be a welcome change of pace for her. By the time you hit send, shes probably already received dozens of desperate messages from older gentlemen who bare frightening resemblance to her creepy step-uncle. I once made a fake female account to check what the competition was like, and it aint good.
With salt dating, I cant promise every date will be a positive experience. But youll certainly have your fair share of interesting stories to tell. God knows I have mine.But thats another book
When the rules of the game say youre not allowed to play, I say fuck the rules and hack the game.
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